Finding Your Way Back Home Where Your Heart Is

Since starting "Messages for Women" I have been pleasantly suprised with the men in my life wanting to help. I am not sure if it is simply the fact that it is for women only, thus the elimination of them makes them want to be involved. Or the fact that if women help each other, a certain amount of responsibility to fill our needs will be released from them, providing a sense of relief.

One of my closest male friends and I got into an interesting conversation just the other day. He indicated that he sees my initiative as a way to get back to basics of traditional roles that men and women have that are based on our inherent natural skills and desires. After a few minutes of discussion we concluded that men are born naturally to provide and protect. And women are born to connect and nuture. He went on to say that he really wants to receive that female nurturing and connection and really has the desire to provide and protect. He has been looking for it his whole life and is having a difficult time finding a women who is open to receiving it. He also went on to say that he is always willing support and encourage (which he does for me) women to have meaningful careers and that does not need to change the natural difference between how men and women show love. I do agree that men can love but do show it much differently. He may be on to something (by the way ladies he is single).

What I am hung up on is whether most men want to show their love through providing and protecting. I realize that it just may be my experience. Most of the men in my life (from my father to my current husband) up until recently have not shown this desire. After spending Thanksgiving with my 18 year old son I just might have seen some natural instincts come out that might prove me wrong. This is the first year that he has come to visit versus living in my home. He is now a man. I felt some changes in him. I can feel his desire to provide and protect through the change in his priorities and by what he is needing from me. He asked me to teach him to cook. He asked if I wanted some chocolate ice cream and wanted to stop at the store to bring it home for us. He asked several times what our plans were and was eager to help. He is no longer shy about hugs and "I love you's" (even in front of his friends-well except for writing on his wall in Facebook-off limits for me). He has always had a soft heart so this is not a surprise. It just seems to have presented itself openly so quickly.

So maybe my friend is correct. Men do naturally want to provide and protect. And maybe over the last 50 years; during women's bra burning, bringing home the bacon and frying it up in a pan, has left men confused. Maybe I have not experienced the giving of this desire in men in my life because I was too busy to receive it??

So the question we must ask ourself, "How do we support men in finding their way back home to where their heart is?" For me I am getting back to basics and natural instincts; connecting and nurturing.

The Ego Talks the Heart Walks

Today will go down in history. Yesterday the people of American spoke. We are all created equal. Each of us will mark that day our own way on our own life timeline. For me my son's first time voting changed the course of history. His vote counted. On a very personal level my life was also touched directly. My new initiative "Messages for Women" began. On that day I received my first message from a woman who wants to inspire another woman (click to the right to give an inspirational message to another woman today).
So what is now in store for our country? What is in store for each of us? Was it enough to vote for change and not do anything else? People are talking about "The Shift". We even heard those exact words on the TV networks last night. It has begun. The ego lost. The heart won. Enough of people talking about what to do but doing nothing. Now our work begins. Each and every one of us has a huge responsibility to do something everyday for change. There are no excuses as to why we can't. I encourage you to start today. Do one thing that will change someone's life. Every action from the heart is extraordinary. You are extraordinary give today. Barak Obama represents us but will not do it for us. Never forget his words, "yes WE can".